Parenting... a conflicting business

Well as the title says... Parenting is no joke. Since I have become a mom I have been bombarded with information, messages and experiences from everyone around me. However if you are a parent, you would know that there is no one rule or one way to deal with kids. 

Every child is different and so are the ways we deal with them. We might be giving the same information but the way to deliver it could be totally different. Now how do we know what we are doing is right- well the answer is ‘we don’t’. Haha

There is no book, no website, no one thing can teach us parenting. It can tell us about experiences other people had and how we can try different things to deal with a child but there is no manual. I wish there was...

Personally, I go with my instinct. Sometimes it might not be the best thing too. The time we live in now is the time where we need to give our kids the tools to be able to live their life on their own. But the mama bear instinct says the opposite- ‘protect your child’... you see why it’s conflicting.

 I understand all the things I have to do to make sure our kids need to learn and value everything but did in mention ‘mama bear’, she needs to stay put lol.

Kids don’t stay babies forever and so our roles as parents change as they grow. We grow with our kids. We learn to be patient, to be a friend, to be a teacher, to be a child, and the list goes on. I appreciate all that I am learning being a parent.

Now the other day I watched video about ‘what privilege looks like’. It was a very interesting video that shows how as parents we have the responsibility to make sure that we provide our kids with all the tools to deal with life and not deal with life for them. No matter how much money we have, how much power we have. We have the responsibility to raise the future of the world. Kids need to learn to make mistakes and learn from it, they need to understand the value of everything around them. They don’t know any better. It’s our responsibility. 

It could be hard to not cook a meal for your kid but how are they going to learn to cook if you keep cooking for them. I am going to make sure that I raise my boys to be humans first, without gender stereotypes, without society pressures (as long as I can) and without any judgement. And if that sometimes mean that they would have to learn the hard way, so be it. As long as I know I have provided them the right knowledge and tools to deal with whatever is thrown at them, they will be just fine...