Being a Feminist...

Alrighty, feminism is a very hot and touchy subject to talk about. Everyone has their own way to explain what it means and how they follow it or think about it. However, do we really understand what it means? And if we think we understand, do we really act on it?

I am no expert on feminism, I call myself an 'equalist'. I know there is no such word, but mehhh... I made it up to suite myself and life I am living lol... so for me I don't expect my other half to do anything if am not ready to do the same and I expect the same from him. And, by that I mean there shouldn't be an assumption or pre requisite of 'this is a woman's job or a man's job' in terms of things we do around the house or in our relationships or in general. And to be more clear I am not talking about things like having a baby, that is a natural process, till technology catches up lol....

Anyways, I am not writing this post to explain what 'equalism' (another made up term) means but to talk about the basic problem we might need to fix among us females before we start preaching feminism or any 'ism' to anyone else. P.S this is my personal opinion.

So let's get started.... have you heard of this "sometimes you have to take a step backwards to see if you are moving in the right direction".

I know a lot of women including me would get pretty wound up if we see any inequality or bias based on the gender, age, race, colour, being a mom (its a thing, seriously) etc, etc, etc. It's all around us, it happens all the time.

But are we doing our part to make sure we are not doing it? How many times we are the ones who gossiped about the other female colleague, oh let's just say because she was very assertive? How many times we make a comment about someone's else's daughter? How many times did we make a comment about someone breastfeeding in the public? How many times when the roles were reversed we didn't do the right thing? How many times we had double standards and were too quick to pass a judgement about other female? I will leave you with this...

So going back to the quote above. May be we need to check ourselves and empower each other first, before we start telling anyone else. This is the only way as you can't preach something you don't practice. #togetherwestand